I wrote this several months before my daughter gave birth to my granddaughter Arileise on May 2, 2012. I ran across it today and thought I would share.
A Letter to My Children,
My oldest Daughter Brittany and her husband Richard are having a baby due April 19th. We went to the ultrasound last Thursday and it was amazing to see. My youngest is 15 it has been many years since I have see one and the technology advancement makes everything more clear. We could see the baby yarning, hiccupping, putting her hand by her mouth, along with the fact that yes IT IS A GIRL.
I have to say that I am very excited to have a baby come into my life since this will be my first grandchild I am really nerves’. Not only for my child my first baby having a baby but being a grandparent is a big responsibility. I want to be a good grandparent and I am sure I will be but that doesn’t stop the worry. My children have not had active grandparents in their lives; they have had occasional visits over the years but not much of a relationship. I don’t want that for my grandchildren just as I never wanted that for my children with their grandparents but that wasn’t my choice.
I am taking this responsibility seriously and will make time to spend with my children and their families. I want to be there for them when they call to say the baby is crying and I don’t know what else to do. Or the kids are making messes all over the house and they can’t keep up with them. I want to be there in the happy time and the stressful times. To be honest I want to continue to be the mother my children need in their lives as their lives move forward into adulthood. I want to offer my support and encourage them and to lend a hand when needed. I hope to carry on some of our traditions that we have done over the years as a family to include the new people that will be added to our live as my children marry and bring children into the world. I know at time we will have troubles making our lives fit together but it is worth the effort with lots of grace and forgiveness we can travel this road into the next season.
Love Yours Always,